AK Jeff & Mystery,
Thanks for the websites. I'll try them.
happy camper
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having a hard time making friends
by happy camper ini was wondering if anyone else has had a hard time making friends since leaving the organization.
being raised as a jw, it seems difficult to me, as i was never allowed to have any friends who weren't other jw's.
as a result, i have isolated myself to only my immediate family.
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How do you feel about.....
by bagpuss ingoing back to a kingdom hall?.
recently i've had a couple of visits from jws while i was at work.
each time they left a message that the co was going to be visiting this week and that it would be good if i went to the meeting.. i was really surprised at the strong reaction i had to the thought of going to a meeting again.
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happy camper
I'm kinda surprised that they keep contacting you, especially at work. In the 10 years I have been disfellowshipped I have NEVER once been contacted by the elders or anyone else for that matter. And they say that they contact a person once every year or so, that's a bald face LIE. I know that for a fact, and I have also been in two different states and have not been contacted by an elder, so it's not just one congregation that is not contacting. As for going back to a meeting, why do you want to put yourself thru that when you have already said that the thought of it makes you sick? I think it just makes the emotional damage all that much more worse. People that leave cult's dont go back for "one more meeting" with the cult. There's a reason why they dont. Think about it. You have to fight the urge to go back there,sometimes we go back for our family and friendships, but we're not really going back to learn about god, were going back purely for the social aspect of it. And remember, they can be VERY persuasive in trying to get you to go back, they are very good actors. Be strong.
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? Need fellowship with ex-Dubs . Is there a WS by geographical location ?
by disciple inexez,.
i have managed to meet up with 3 ex w in houston tx and through the grapevine have heard there are at least 150 active in houston area .... any way you know of to start bringing those together.
is there a message or post board that is primarily geographical in nature?
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happy camper
I too am looking for some kind of meet up in the Dallas, Texas area. I am new to this board, but would like to meet some others in my area who are ex JW's. or if anyone would be interested in starting one in this area, or just someone who would like to meet. That would be great.
Thanks
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wanting to leave jw org
by min79 in.
i am a baptised jw and am wanting to disassociate myself.
i am looking to find someone who has left this org to give me some idea on the letter to write and how they dealt with their friends who shunned them
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happy camper
Hi Min,
As far as dealing with being shunned, there really isn't an easy answer. You don't have a choice but to deal with it, because your previous friends WILL NOT speak to you. The friends that I grew up with, went thru school with, laughed, cried with, all left me, and never spoke to me again. That only made me realize even more that they were never my true friends to begin with. How could they have been, after all we had been thru together. But somehow I made it thru, although I still miss them dearly sometimes when something reminds me of them. I just keep reminding myself that they are the sad ones, to still be in that pathetic religion, having their minds controlled. It's good that you travel alot, because living in the same town as all of the people in the congregation can be very stressful, especially when you see them at the store and they don't say a word to you, they just stare with glaring eyes. It's hard at first, but it gets easier to deal with as time goes by.
Good luck to you
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Do you have a better career now that you're out?
by wanderlustguy injust dawned on me that i couldn't do my job if not for leaving.
i'm a director of marketing for a telecom company and travel the country constantly, different city and state every three months or so.
part of the job is "having" to take people out for drinks and dinner, etc all the time.
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happy camper
I am a medical assistant, and I have noticed that I am nicer and friendlier to both the people that I work with and the patients. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I no longer think I'm better than the average person. I've learned that people that you come in contact with are really actually nice people, and not the horrible creatures we were taught to believe.
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having a hard time making friends
by happy camper ini was wondering if anyone else has had a hard time making friends since leaving the organization.
being raised as a jw, it seems difficult to me, as i was never allowed to have any friends who weren't other jw's.
as a result, i have isolated myself to only my immediate family.
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happy camper
oops, I did post twice
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having a hard time making friends
by happy camper ini was wondering if anyone else has had a hard time making friends since leaving the organization.
being raised as a jw, it seems difficult to me, as i was never allowed to have any friends who weren't other jw's.
as a result, i have isolated myself to only my immediate family.
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happy camper
Thank you all, you all sound so wonderful. I posted a reply back earlier, but I dont think it worked, so, I hope I dont post this twice. I will definately try some of your suggestions. They are all great. It's so nice to hear from people who understand this. I never really realized how much this has damaged me emotionally, but I'm glad I'm not alone. At least I dont have to think I'm crazy. Thanks for being here.
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having a hard time making friends
by happy camper ini was wondering if anyone else has had a hard time making friends since leaving the organization.
being raised as a jw, it seems difficult to me, as i was never allowed to have any friends who weren't other jw's.
as a result, i have isolated myself to only my immediate family.
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happy camper
Thank you to all of you, I will definately try some of your advice. You all sound so wonderful, I haven't had so much support in the last 10 years. Therefore, I haven't really even begun the healing process, but maybe I can now. It is so true that the reasons why it is hard for us to make friends is because of our upbringing, especially how they shelter and isolate us as young children. Not to mention the way "worldly" people are made out to be. But thanks again, I hope to talk to you much more in the future.
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having a hard time making friends
by happy camper ini was wondering if anyone else has had a hard time making friends since leaving the organization.
being raised as a jw, it seems difficult to me, as i was never allowed to have any friends who weren't other jw's.
as a result, i have isolated myself to only my immediate family.
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happy camper
I was wondering if anyone else has had a hard time making friends since leaving the organization. Being raised as a JW, it seems difficult to me, as I was never allowed to have any friends who weren't other JW's. As a result, I have isolated myself to only my immediate family. It's almost like I have put a mental block. My parents who are still JW's, always taught me that the only REAL friends one can have are other JW's, and that those not in the "truth" would never be our real friends. Maybe thats it, idk. Also, I was wondering if any ex JW's meet locally. Thanks
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new to this site
by happy camper inhi, i am new to this site.
i have been an ex- jw for about 10years now, and this is the first time i have done this.
( trying to avoid the "apostate" label) haha i would love to hear from some ex- jw's, and see if they have and are going thru some of the same experiences that i am.
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happy camper
Hi, I am new to this site. I have been an ex- JW for about 10years now, and this is the first time I have done this. ( trying to avoid the "apostate" label) haha I would love to hear from some ex- JW's, and see if they have and are going thru some of the same experiences that I am. I was raised in the "truth", and it would be great to talk to someone who understands what I have been going thru. Thanks a million.